The Value behind Reaction

December 31, 2015 at 5:03 am 2 comments

2015-04-20_0810_001There are often reactions that happen within situations – either I react or others react. The situation then becomes a confrontation.

When a value or belief that someone holds is challenged then they can react. Reaction is a way of defending and upholding the underlying value that is being challenged.

It is actually not a question of what is right or wrong and therefore the way to resolve it is also to go beyond trying to prove its correctness or not. The way to resolve reaction is to foster respect for what they value and then respond accordingly.
After all, no matter the situation, it is not my place to undermine someone else’s belief/value.

Reaction happens for a reason and if I am able to understand and give respect to the underlying belief/value that they wish to uphold then the reaction will easily dissolve.


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  • 1. inaendelea  |  January 3, 2016 at 10:51 pm

    “… and give respect to the underlying belief/value that they wish to uphold… ” give respect often means to be agree at least to some degree, but when you’re absolutely disagree is impossible, in such cases you have to keep silent, but when such situation is frequent, you become mute frequently. It not seems so good behaviour, what do you think?

    • 2. Vasanti  |  January 4, 2016 at 10:29 am

      What I mean by giving respect is to understand where they are coming from – seeing through their eyes. For them they believe they are doing the right thing hence there will be a belief/value they are upholding. What you believe may be different to that, but to understand why they are behaving in such a way will help us to accept the situation. After all they not doing something ‘wrong’ just for the sake of it or to upset me. They are doing it because they believe something different to me.

      I hope this makes sense?


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