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The Power to Discern


To discern means the power to differentiate between, for example, what is ‘right’ and what is ‘wrong’, what is ‘good’ and what is not. It is the power to know – an aspect of being knowledge-full.

What clouds my ability to discern with accuracy?

Greed and Desire do not allow me to see what is needed but only show me what I want.

Attachment will make me defend the thing I am attached to, whether it is right or wrong.

Anger is based on subtle fear and always challenges situations to keep me in the comfort zones I have created.

Ego is based on an attitude that “I already know”. It doesn’t allow me to see all the facts in the equation but assume them.

In any situation, when the power of discernment is needed, I first need to check that my judgement is not being clouded by those five vices.


Om Shanti

November 28, 2013 at 9:23 am 1 comment

The Nature of Ego


One of the blocks that comes along the way on our spiritual journey is Ego.

The thing about ego is that it camouflages itself very well and appears to be a faithful friend. So how do I identify it within myself?

Ego is the social mask we wear. It is sustained by power and so it will try and control. However it lives in fear of being powerless.

Ego very quickly gives an opinion; it does not allow me to be the detached observer.
It is in fact intolerant. Ego has no patience.

Ego cannot tolerate the praise of others. It comes in through the door of criticism.
Ego only sees weaknesses and mistakes of others.
Ego inspects others but does not inspect the self.
Ego does not accept correction but gives correction.
Ego comes with many qualities and skills but not with many virtues.

Can I identify the Ego within me?

Om Shanti

September 5, 2013 at 12:07 pm Leave a comment

That’s Ego Talking

Ego is such a sneaky character. It disguises itself and influences our behaviour in the most incredible ways.

Ego always wants its own way. It thinks it knows everything and thus it has the right answers. It will therefore not agree with anyone but expects others to accept what it has to say.

One way in which it disguises itself is by being inclusive and ensuring no-one is missed or feels left out within a discussion. Ego also makes sure that everyone is aware that he is being inclusive and of course this would be seen as a great virtue, and it is. But subtly hiding behind this ‘virtue’ is the nature of wanting to control everyone. Ego thus wins support with its nature of sweetness and inclusion ….that’s ego talking!

Know that ego comes with many outward skills but not with many virtues.

Check, is that ego talking?


Om Shanti

December 18, 2011 at 9:28 am Leave a comment

At the Heart of Ego

Ego is the most subtle of all vices. Unlike the other vices, ego stands alone and needs no-one. It is the only vice whose entry point is through the intellect and not through feelings of the heart.

Ego cannot tolerate the praise of others. It lives off comparison, competition and criticism because what ego wants to show is that it is better than the other.

The eyes of ego are very big in seeing the mistakes and weaknesses of other, yet the eyes to see the self are so small that its own mistakes are barely visible.

Ego blocks any positive feeling. It does not allow you to appreciate, accept or value others.

If we are able to open the door of the heart and allow feelings of mercy and appreciation to influence the intellect then ego will soon lose its power. Otherwise ego will take control and create its kingdom within your life isolating you from many possibilities of good feelings and friends.

Make a stand for the heart. Challenge the ego.


Om Shanti

November 5, 2011 at 9:31 am Leave a comment

The Face of Ego

The sign of ego is pain.If I experience pain, then understand that ego is present.

We feel pain and blame it on things happening outside. But in fact the pain is caused by ego, which is internal

Ego is the cause of ill feelings; feelings generated by not receiving respect or praise. Stubbornness and needing to prove I am right is also connected to ego – ego of control.

Ego is based on deep insecurities and fear within. We deal with it by holding onto and controlling things. Thus ego puts up defences and objections. It brings limitations to the self.

It is very present and active in our lives and yet we cannot see its face. It remains hidden and pretends to be our friend. That is the greatest deception and the real cause of pain.

Kill the ego. Kill the pain.


Om Shanti

October 14, 2011 at 3:19 am Leave a comment


Ego is one of those vices which some would class as ‘good to have’; it allows one to be ‘positioned’ and ‘noticed’, and ‘respected’ even.

However the thing with ego, specifically subtle forms of ego, is that it sits you on a false seat. Then when the truth reveals itself, which it will, there will be realisation and pain. And also the shame of knowing that everyone but you always knew.

Unlike any other vice, ego cripples the intellect’s ability to discern. Ego adopts a form based on a speciality – on whatever is good within the self – and so disguises itself in that. It attracts the soul and it deludes it so that it is difficult for the self to recognise that this is ego.

Like salt mixed in sugar, it is not obvious and not everyone would know. However the moment it is tasted and experienced the truth is revealed. Its character and taste cannot remain hidden and salt can never be sweet! Everyone will be able to taste it except you. For the self it is something that has to be realised.

Watch out for that attractive form of ego!

Om Shanti

September 15, 2011 at 7:38 am Leave a comment

The Third ‘I’

Our life is made up of many scenes and dramas. Within that I will always internally position myself within an identity.

The first positioning of the ‘I’ is based on ego: that I am right; I am something; I am here; I count. This is a very gross form of ego which is clearly seen by others but which I cannot see.

The second positioning is that of ‘I’ based on the inferior ego: I am nothing; I don’t really matter. This is a very subtle form of ego. It eats away at the spirit and takes away my self-respect. I can identify it only when I spend time looking within and checking what is going on inside.

The third ‘I’ is that of the awareness of the soul. This is the real ‘I’, the eternal and immortal ‘I’ with all its qualities and virtues intact. It allows me to act and interact in the best possible way without losing my own self-respect or without putting others down in order to gain respect.

Which ‘I’ am I now?

Om Shanti

August 18, 2011 at 5:30 am Leave a comment

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