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Free to Forgive

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When I feel hurt it is usually because someone did something or said something – or maybe did not say or do something.
Then I feel I am not able to forgive them – perhaps I don’t want to forgive them.

What is it that I want from them? To change, to feel the hurt, to feel regret?

I need to step back and realise that by not forgiving them I am holding onto the feelings of hurt and remembering them again and again…. building walls of impression and vision which will influence the future.

In the process of forgiving, I am letting go but also subtly helping the other person to let go as I am no longer ‘holding’ on to them with negative thoughts and feelings.

When I forgive I make peace with the past. It does not change the past but it allows the possibility of so much more in the future.

Forgiveness takes place in my own mind and heart … It has nothing to do with anyone else.

 

Om Shanti

February 23, 2017 at 12:39 pm Leave a comment

Forgive and Become Free

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There is often a misconception about what it means to forgive. We believe that we are doing someone a favour by forgiving them, but are we really?

What happened cannot be changed. But as long as I choose to hold onto that scene it will continue to create walls of mistrust, anger and dislike in my mind and in my heart.

The longer I hold on, the stronger these walls will grow and my future vision and actions will lack clarity. If I do not learn to let go of it, I will carry the experience of the situation with me into the future as a heavy burden.

It is not a matter of who was right or not in the situation – the question is – do I want to carry the pain of that scene with me throughout my life – allowing it to influence my thinking, feeling and responses forever more?

To forgive means to free oneself from a situation. Let go and become free.

 

Om Shanti

May 14, 2015 at 6:34 am Leave a comment

Forgive for the Future

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When we forgive we make peace with that which happened in the past.

It does not change the past – right or not, good or otherwise – that was what it was.

Forgiveness takes place in our minds and our hearts. It really has nothing to do with anyone other than me. In forgiving I am allowing the possibility of so much more in the future.

The past cannot be changed … It is impossible. But there is no need to remain bound by the chains of the past.

When we forgive we don’t change the past we change the future.

 

Om Shanti

May 7, 2015 at 6:48 am Leave a comment

Forgive and Forget

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Often when we are hurt by people, especially those close to us, it becomes very difficult to forgive, move on and re-nurture trust.

With everything we do, say or even think, we are laying the building blocks for the future. When a hurtful scene occurs and we hold onto that scene and the pain – when we don’t forgive – then that becomes the foundation for our future too.

It is as if we reap a harvest that is diseased and keep the seeds to plant out again. Planting seeds that are infected will only result in another infected harvest.

Something painful that happened in the past exists in the past. If we decide to keep it safe and cultivate it again and again in the future then it will stay with us. In fact it will multiply, grow and influence other areas of our lives too. It is not about the person or situation that hurt me in the past but it is about the future I want for myself.

What is required is the courage to let go, to forgive and forget. We need to burn those infected seeds and have the courage to start again with fresh, healthy seeds.

Do I have the courage to forgive and forget?

Om Shanti

August 14, 2014 at 6:44 am 2 comments

Forgiveness

Forgiveness heals, but most of us find it difficult to do, especially if the source of our hurt is close and personal.

If we feel hurt it means we have accepted or taken something that in fact we should have refused. Then we are left in a position where we now have to let go of it, give it away. Unless we do this we will continue to feel the pain. We have to forgive!

The source of upset is something in the past. Once happened we need to understand that it cannot be changed, it is impossible. But what can change is how I deal with it now.

When I am unable to forgive it is like waging war with the situation. Then I hold onto resentment and bad feelings within myself: I punish myself.

Forgiveness requires love and sympathy, initially for the self, but also for the other person. Where there is love, there can be acceptance and acceptance then becomes an easy stepping stone to forgiveness.

Take the step to forgiveness.

 

Om Shanti

October 20, 2011 at 5:08 am Leave a comment


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